Richard Foster said, “Superficiality
is the curse of our age. . . . The desperate need today is not for
a greater number of intelligent people, or gifted people, but for
deep people. “ Socrates said, “The unexamined
life is not worth living.” We live in a wonderful age,
but it has a dark side. Many of us today are in a "structural
hurry”—a fast pace is “structure”
into our lives. The price of pace is peace. Let’s begin the
new year by resolving to call “time out” to peer
into our souls. Read Psalm 17:3, 26:1-12, 32:8, 139:1-24; 2 Corinthians
10:3-5, 13:5.
Sample Goal:
I will take one morning each month to slow down, examine my heart,
think deeply about my life, and make changes based upon God’s
purpose.
My Goal:
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2.
GOD
Spurgeon said, “In
40 years I have not spent 15 minutes without thinking of Jesus.”
There is a God we want, and there is a God who is. They are not the
same God. One day it hit me: Wishing for “the God I want”
won’t have one iota of impact on God’s unchanging nature.
Our job is not to change God—but rather to let
Him change the core affections of our hearts. We must
come humbly and negotiate a full “surrender” to the Lordship
of Jesus Christ. The turning point of our lives is when we stop seeking
the God we want and start seeking the God who is. Read Psalm 96:1-9;
Ezekiel 1:25-28; Revelation 4, 5, 21, 22.
Sample Goal:
I will search for the God of the Bible, inviting him to change the
affections of my heart. I will begin each day with faith and repentance.
My Goal:
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3.
WIFE
After God, but before all
others, I will make my wife my top priority. If we took all of the
problems of men, put the marriage problem in one stack and the other
problems in another stack, the marriage problem alone is still higher
than all the other problems combined. Easily the #1 problem most men
face today is that their marriages are not working the way God intended.
When the party is over, the lights have been dimmed, and the kids
are grown and gone, there will only be two rocking chairs sitting
side by side. You really are the only ones in this thing together.
Sample Goal:
I will prove by the way I spend my time that my wife is truly the
most important person in my life after God, but before all others.
My Goal:
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4.
CHILDREN
No amount of success
at work can adequately compensate for failure at home. If your
children are walking with God all of your other problems will fit
into a thimble. So be your children’s spiritual leader, greatest
fan, encourager, cheerleader, mentor, and example. Pray for them.
Spend time with them in ways they want to receive it—board games,
outings, watching their sporting events... Tell each child every day,
“I love you!” and “I’m proud of you!”—like
God did in Matthew 3:17! Also read Ephesians 6:4; Colossians 3:23.
Sample Goal:
I will rotate taking one child each week on a “fun date”,
tell each child I love them and I’m proud of them, and pray
for them each day.
My Goal:
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5. WORK
I don’t have
to work 70 hours a week to be successful. In fact, if I work that
much, I can be pretty sure I’m failing everywhere else.
Most people will spend more time at work than any other place. Work
is not merely a platform to do ministry—it is ministry. Our
work is a holy vocation. Do your work with uncompromising excellence
as if doing it for the Lord Jesus—because you are! Read Genesis
1:27-28, 2:4-15, 3:17-19; Colossians 3:22-24.
Sample Goal:
I will stop thinking of work as merely a “means” to other
ends and begin to look for intrinsic value in the work I do.
My Goal:
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6.
CHURCH
A wily wolf doesn’t
attack the flock. He waits for a lone sheep to stray away. Here
is a great irony: Generally speaking, the least involved people in
church are the ones who need it most. Yet the church often ministers
best to the most involved members. The solution? If you are a needy
person, get more involved (don’t rail against the system). For
the already involved, spend time reaching out to people on the fringe
of your church. Read Hebrews 10:23-25.
Sample Goal:
I will seek ways to be actively involved in my church.
My Goal:
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7.
MINISTRY
Brother Lawrence said,
“I tell you that this sweet and loving gaze of God insensibly
kindles a divine fire in the soul which is set ablaze so ardently
with the love of God that one is obliged to perform exterior acts
to moderate it.” We belong to Jesus. Use your spiritual
gift for the glory of God by loving and serving others. I’m
praying in faith that your life will make a difference—in your
calling as a spouse, parent, provider, churchman, witness, servant,
and friend. Read Romans 12:3-8; 1 Corinthians 12:1-31; Ephesians 4:11-13;
1 Peter 4:9-11.
Sample Goal:
This year I will gain a better understanding of my spiritual gifting,
and ask my pastor for a way to use it.
My Goal:
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8. MONEY
When the 10th of the
month rolls around your landlord isn’t looking for Jesus, he
wants cash! Money is very important, but it won’t solve
all our problems. Most men think that money will do what it won’t,
and that God won’t do what He will. Pray for a “conversion
of the wallet.” Be generous. Be a steward. Read Matthew 6:24;
2 Corinthians 8 and 9; 1 Timothy 6:6-10.
Sample Goal:
This year I will tithe by faith and save five percent.
My Goal:
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9.
HEALTH
If we don’t take
care of ourselves it’s because we don’t think we have
time. Yet no one else can take responsibility for our private lives.
Health is mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual wholeness. Health
is a gift from God, but we are responsible to create a proper balance
with rest, recreation, nutrition, and exercise.
Sample Goal:
I will study one new subject completely foreign to my normal routines
(e.g.; astronomy, interior design, sailing) and exercise 3 times each
week.
My Goal:
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10.
FRIENDSHIP AND ACCOUNTABILITY
Most of us could name
six pallbearers, but few of us have a friend we could call at 2:00
a. m. Mother Theresa, once asked, “What is the
greatest problem facing the world?” answered without
hesitation: “Loneliness.”
You will be fortunate in life if you have three real friends.
Friendship is hard work. It takes time to build trust. Accountability—a
step deeper—means giving a few people permission to ask you
how you are really doing. Nothing will do more to keep you on track.
Read Proverbs 27:6,17; Ecclesiastes 4:9-10; John 13:34; Galatians
6:1-2; Philippians 2:4
Sample Goal:
This year I will start an accountability group with three men.
My Goal:
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11.
THE BIBLE
If you want to know
God’s will, read God’s will. The Bible is God’s
will. Oswald Chambers suggests, “Unless in the first
waking moment of the day you learn to fling the door wide back and
let God in, you will work on a wrong level all day; but swing the
door wide open and pray to your Father in secret, and every public
thing will be stamped with the presence of God.” Most of
us have heard, “I knew about God, but I didn’t know God.”
Perhaps a greater problem today is that people do know God, but they
don’t know about Him. Your life won’t change in any significant
way without regular study of God’s word. Read Psalm 1:1-3, 119:9-11
and 89-104; John 20:30-31; Romans 15:4; 2 Timothy 3:16-17
Sample Goal:
This year I am going to read through The One Year Bible and memorize
one scripture verse each month.
My Goal:
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12: PRAYER
Pray throughout the
day, because praying once a day is like eating one potato chip. Prayer
is constant conversation with a Father who wants to give you everything
you need. Prayer is hard work—but it releases the power of God
into human actions. A man interviewing for a position with our
ministry asked "Are you a praying ministry?" His interviewer
answered, "Yes." Then he said, "Just so there is no
misunderstanding, what I'm asking is not whether you believe in prayer,
but do you pray?" Let’s not just believe in prayer—let’s
pray! Prayer is the currency of our personal relationship with Jesus.
Matthew 6:5-15; Ephesians 6:18; James 5:16; 1 Thessalonians 5:17
Sample Goal:
I will spend time in prayer before making any major decision. I will
begin each day with prayer.
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