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1. What is it that most attracted you to your wife? What has been your
biggest surprise about married life?
2. What
is a woman created for, according to Genesis 1:18, 2:24, and 3:16? What
would you say is your wife's greatest need, and why?
3. You
and your wife (girlfriend, ex-wife) each have an Emotional Bank Account.
In every contact with her, verbal and nonverbal, you are either making
a deposit or a withdrawal.
a. In
the routine of a typical day what would you estimate your "deposit
to withdrawal ratio" to be? (For example: 20 deposits and 4 withdrawals
would be a 5-to-1 ratio. 2 deposits and 10 withdrawals would be a
1-to-5 ratio. If your "deposit to withdrawal ratio" shows
you are making more deposits than withdrawals, congratulations. Keep
up the good work. If your withdrawals exceed your deposits your marriage
is headed for trouble.)
b. What
are two or three deposits you can make today into your wife's Emotional
Bank Account?
| GENERALIZATIONS |
HUSBAND |
WIFE |
| greatest
need... |
significance |
intimacy |
| principal
drive... |
to
be respected |
to
be cherished |
| orientation... |
task |
relationship |
| principal
command... |
love
eph 5:25,28,33 |
submit
eph 5:22,24 |
| principal
activity... |
providing
1ti 5:8 |
nurturing
tit 2:4-5 |
| creativity
directed to... |
work |
home |
| deepest
fear... |
failure
to provide |
something
happen to child |
| risk
orientation... |
take
a risk |
seek
security |
| principal
concerns... |
money,
meaning |
husband,
children |
| principal
struggle... |
pressure |
worry |
| negative
emotion... |
anger |
fear |
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