One day it dawned on me that some of the other Christian guys around me were getting very different--and enviable--results from their faith. So I called a time-out and decided to study the Bible to see if I could figure out what was going on. I thought that after a couple of weeks I would get it all sorted out, make the fix, and then really go and do something great for God.
We'll start with what I believe is the single biggest problem men as a group face today--bigger than all their other problems combined. Their marriages are not working as God designed. What can we learn from Joseph that God can use to make us into the husbands He created us to be?
A former business colleague is discipling a college student and asked me which of my books I would recommend he use. Without blinking I wrote back, "How God Makes Men." And then I included the following book excerpt, which explains why...
First, making disciples starts at home. Your most important ministry is to your wife (if you have one). A friend of mine was having marriage problems. He came to one of our conferences and got inspired to disciple men. Since that brought him joy, and home brought him distress, he started putting more and more time into discipling men and spending less and less time with his wife. When he asked me about it, I said, "I don't want you doing ministry to men until you get your ministry to your wife right." To his credit, he went back and put his own marriage in order. Today, he has a flourishing ministry to men.